Love Without Walls Is No Love at All

A protester this week held up a sign that said, “No walls for the Land of the Free.”  No walls. No barriers. Nothing. The false thinking expressed on that sign applies to far more than the current political scene.

Imagine a random person of unknown origin passes our home some night. There are no locks on the doors, no barriers, because my husband and I have decided we will just live in “love” to all those who are in need. No walls, no boundaries. No checking as to who these strangers are.

The individual, and then another, and another comes right in, and they help themselves to the food Tom has bought for our family. One assaults our daughter and me, the others take off with the things we own to be sold for cash.  Tom watches it all passively,  eyes filled with compassion and tears  for the strangers who have harmed us.  Life without walls, only love. Right? The whole scene should provoke moral outrage, not admiration. Because that’s not love.

Love that does not protect is not love at all. Love bounds in what is valuable and precious and ensures its safety. The locks on our doors are there to protect us. Tom protects us and keeps a watchful eye out for our well-being, because he  loves us, and he hates what is a threat to us.

Real love hates, yes, hates, what threatens the object of that love. It is prepared to erect walls around it to preserve and protect. People care about their valuables and entrust them to banks with vaults for a reason. They lock out what threatens the things they care about.

This is why nations and leaders that don’t protect the freedoms and safety they enjoy  by erecting strong boundaries are fools.  Any help they provide to those in genuine need should take place only when what is most important is protected.

Likewise, men and women who don’t protect their marriages and their children don’t show true love at all. Love erects a barrier so that harm does not come to what is precious. Borders are there to preserve and protect. Without them, nothing of value is safe.

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6 thoughts on “Love Without Walls Is No Love at All

  1. Tom says:

    Thank you for the reminder of this simple truth, one that is so simple that many are blind to it. The reason for that is true love is increasingly unrecognized. It is becoming an endangered species. Individuals, families, communities, nations and the world would be much better off by observing this.
    Tom

  2. Carol says:

    Amen, Ingrid. Jesus set healthy boundaries with people and He is our example. God the Father set limits with His people in the OT for their good. Let us all be teachable for our own good and not be a foolish people. The Lord is Good and He wants us to thrive.

  3. healinginhim says:

    Thank you, Ingrid for stating the plain, simple truth about love. Whether it’s nations or loved ones; we must have boundaries in order to protect what is valuable.
    We shouldn’t care about offending those who are evil.
    A relationship is scarred when those whom we thought loved us have actually abandoned us to defend ourselves as they stand by.

  4. Carolyn says:

    A wise and true post.

    “Love that does not protect is not love at all. Love bounds in what is valuable and precious and ensures its safety.” AMEN

    “Real love hates, yes, hates, what threatens the object of that love. It is prepared to erect walls around it to preserve and protect.” AMEN, and might I add, if I hear one more sermon from a Christian pastor about how believers are supposed to be all “loving”, I may actually vomit. Real Christian love means you hate what God hates, and yes, there are things God hates. There are times when believers must fight what is evil, and that without apology. Christians should not be all sweet, nice, and “loving” to everyone. While it is true that all are sinners, and all need to repent and receive the salvation in Jesus Christ, the free gift of God which is offered to all, the Bible also teaches that some people will be totally sold out to their sin. These wolves should not be coddled. Read Isaiah 26:10, when the wicked are shown grace, they do not learn righteousness.

    “Love erects a barrier so that harm does not come to what is precious. Borders are there to preserve and protect.” AMEN.

    Healing in Him –

    “We shouldn’t care about offending those who are evil.” AMEN

    “A relationship is scarred when those whom we thought loved us have actually abandoned us to defend ourselves as they stand by.” AMEN, especially when they claim to be Christians.

    1 Cor 13:7a, love always protects.

    My husband said praying for a “hedge of protection” is useless. What is needed isn’t mere shrubbery, but A FORTRESS WITH HIGH WALLS!

  5. healinginhim says:

    Carolyn- “What is needed isn’t mere shrubbery …”
    That is such a good word picture to describe ‘their’ hedge of protection.

    A fortress with high walls. Yes, and even then with those high walls there was always someone “watching” and warning those inside of an attack.

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