A Response to the Movie “Me Before You”

Our culture lives by emotions, not facts or an objective sense of truth. If a movie makes us “feel” and “moves us to tears”, well, then by all means, it must have a good message for us, right? Wrong.

A friend sent this article to me. The movie “Me before You” is yet another death propaganda piece that manages to make suicide look heroic and selfless for a disabled man. He did it for someone else, after all.  I am glad to see this article by a young person responding to the false message the movie promotes. The author begins:

I love romances as much as the next person (perhaps even a little more … I’m a total sap), but I’m decidedly unenthused about the most popular romance in theaters right now. As a disabled person, I really can’t stand “Me Before You.” In my opinion, and in the opinion of much of the disabled community, the film spreads some really harmful misconceptions about life with a disability. In an effort to undo some of the damage caused by this film, I’m here to bust some common myths about disability. (Spoiler warning for “Me Before You,” by the way!)

Read it here.

Remember when movies were filled with things like the triumph of the human spirit against difficult odds, when courage was an admired trait, when steadfastness and strength of character were celebrated? Yes. It seems like a long time ago now.



2 thoughts on “A Response to the Movie “Me Before You”

  1. Carolyn says:

    This post sickened me. I’d not heard of this movie, so I read the link you posted, Ingrid, and did some research into the plot. Basically, a wealthy man becomes disabled from an accident, has a romance, marries the girl, and then ends his life so she can live happily ever after with his massive fortune. Wow, if that isn’t a disgusting plot, I don’t know what is.

    I do hope that Joni Eareckson Tada will comment on this movie (if she hasn’t already), because she has an amazing perspective that few of us can share, especially to the degree that she can. Joni brings a true message of HOPE, LIFE, and LOVE in the face of disabling tragedy, compared to the hopelessness and death (and love of mammon over human life!!!) in this movie masquerading as “heroism/selflessness”.

    The “suicide hero” theme isn’t new though, especially as the “answer” to how to “cope” with being disabled, especially if the disability resulted from a tragic accident. What was that boxing movie that was popular a while back? Million Dollar Baby? I also remember a film that I saw in the early 1990s that was about a dancer (I think) who chose suicide after an accident left her in a wheelchair. I’m sure there are more examples one could come up with. All of these types of films are, as you rightly said, Ingrid, “death propaganda”. I agree with you also that people put feelings over truth far too often.

    The idea that human life is a burden unless it is “perfect” is nauseating. What legacy are we passing onto the next generation? Furthermore, the devaluing of love – to the point of choosing money over relationship – heartbreaking. Now happily ever after is being defined as killing yourself so someone can have your massive bank account?

    I won’t even get into the biggest problem of all: assisted suicide is one of mankind’s strongest ways to thumb the nose at God, who is the Creator and Redeemer of all mankind (creator of all, but redeeming only those who repent and believe the Gospel). It’s basically man playing “god” at the other end of the continuum of the disgusting culture of death that we’ve created… the continuum that begins with murdering babies in the womb.

    Finally, you said, “Remember when movies were filled with things like the triumph of the human spirit against difficult odds, when courage was an admired trait, when steadfastness and strength of character were celebrated?” You are right, that was unfortunately a long, long time ago.

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