When Abuse is Entertainment for Christian Women

This article is written by Marie Notcheva, a friend of mine who has written counseling material on a number of important issues that affect women. In light of the popularity of the 50 Shades books and now, the movie, I thought the piece might be helpful to some. If Barna is correct, those identifying as “Christian” women are as much consumers of this as the rest of the country. The Hope Blog is written as an expression of my own Christian faith, and out of concern for young women (I do believe many young women are) eagerly consuming this material and normalizing it, I wanted to share Marie’s article.

“We are about to see a new wave of counseling cases because of “50 Shades of Grey”, and here’s why: Christian women are reading this tripe at the same rate as the general population. A Barna survey shows that nine percent of American adults have read “50 Shades”, and the statistic is exactly the same for professing Christians.” ~ Marie Notcheva

6 thoughts on “When Abuse is Entertainment for Christian Women

  1. Ingrid Schlueter says:

    It’s all harmless fun, right? Bondage. Sadomasochism for middle aged women. There’s no way it’s affecting our children’s view of women and sexuality, right? No way would kids have access to this. (See news story below.) Into this cess pool comes my own small daughter and grandchildren. What a terrible thing “do what you want” is for a moral code in this culture. And how schizophrenic that violence against women is so abhorred on the one hand and yet celebrated in a sexual context for entertainment by the masses. No surprise our country has a problem with…violence against women.


  2. John says:

    Fifty Shades of Grey was made a movie because Hollywood producers made a calculated risk that the product would sell. The book is popular because it directly targets the female sexual response. Christian women can pretend that they are “disgusted” by the material, but this book and movie resonates at the heart of feminine eros, or feminine sexual love, to all women whether Christian or not.

    Women want to be overpowered, to be ruled, to be treated with strictness. Yes, they prefer that this happens in the context of love of a father or husband, but they desire such things none the less. When they do not receive this masculine conquering in their lives this repressed desire manifests itself in the out-of-control sexuality. For example, the feminist woman from Tennessee who believes that she is a Christian and deserves to run everything feels a great emptiness. Her actions betray her sex and she cannot help be disgusted by her weakling husband who she bosses to and fro. Should he not immediately obey her she has the power to divorce him and win “cash and prizes,” and also take the kids, and furthermore humiliate him at the local megachurch. Women do not like or want this power over a man but it is a reality in our Western society. Is it any wonder that this woman melts when a man in her fantasies is willing to be tough on her no matter her protestations?

    Contrarily in Russia where there exists still some men, those who are not drunk or ill, who are still men in every sense of the word. The women are submissive in all ways and work their entire effort to bring good to their man. These women understand their place in the world and are happy. They laugh at Western decadence such as the fan-fiction novel based on the Twilight Vampire series. They have no need for violence on their persons as they willfully and delightfully place themselves under their man, working for his benefit in all things, and this turns into working for the family, and ultimately themselves.

    There are several blogs that deal with the modern sexual dynamics in the West, including the unhappy gender relations we now have that result in such movies. Dalrock is probably the most well known site.

  3. Beverley says:

    Ingrid, Thank you for joining other God-fearing ministries in the battle for righteousness. The article by Marie Notcheva gets to the root of the problem … “Renewal and transformation of the mind with the Word of God is crucially important….”

  4. Carol says:

    My first reaction to this was, “Whaaat???”. This is all perversion, and if they are “Christian” women reading this they don’t have discernment or know the Word of God. Philippians 4:8&9, “brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things…we are to be blameless and harmless children of God without fault in a crooked and perverse generation among whom you shine as lights in the world. Philippians 2:15. Lord, give us your Grace to shine for You.

  5. Carol says:

    Excellent article by that wise doctor, Ingrid. Satan is always prowling for victims to steal from and destroy their lives, beginning with their innocence.

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