It is easy to give in to fear in life. To do something or not do something because of what others may think. People have lived their entire lives frozen into little caskets of their own making, afraid to be who God intended them to be.
Sometimes the fear comes from our families of origin where children fail to individuate into adults in a healthy way. Underneath everything, there is a lack of confidence in your own decision making, your own abilities, your own person as an individual, free and clear of anyone else.
It takes real courage to face that in yourself as an adult and, no matter what your age, work on becoming who God intended you to be.
If you did not grow up with healthy emotional boundaries in your family, it is never to late to begin to establish them, to tell those who live in perpetually sinful, prideful and controlling ways that you are moving on and tearing up the choreography sheet sketched out for you long ago.
If the old choreography sheet does not get torn up and a new one drafted according to God’s plan, you guarantee that the dysfunction is perpetuated for yet another generation in your own children.
Our children need to see godly courage in their parents–courage to stand in love against sinful behavior in relationships, courage to move on from those who are too blind and unwilling to receive the truth, and courage to love selflessly as Jesus taught us to love.
If they don’t learn this, they are prone to becoming either a perpetrator or an enabler of those who harm others. The twisted concept that enabling and justifying sin is Christian love has left a trail of victims in its wake. It’s up to us to model a godly way.
In the end, we are not responsible for the choices made by others. They cannot be allowed to define us, distract us or impede us from growing into the people God tells us in His Word that we need to be.
There’s a time to hang on and to try to bring about healthy change in relationships. And there’s a time to walk away in freedom, leaving those who choose darkness and self-deception to face the consequences of their choices. That takes strength of character and the knowledge that God has called us to peace.
If someone in your life has rejected you, scorned you, abused you emotionally or otherwise, and you know you have done all you can do to heal the situation, walk away in the firm confidence that God has something better for you than to be destroyed by it. Don’t chase after those God has removed from your life in the name of piety. Sometimes it’s just misdirected neediness. If that’s the case, we’re doomed to a cycle of trying to get needs met by someone who is incapable of doing so. It’s the emotional equivalent of banging your head into a cement wall.
We can stop the senseless head banging, gain a new perspective, stop attributing the status of “god” to a mere mortal and look to the true God to direct our steps and meet our needs. There is tremendous freedom there if we can only see it.
The words of this song are a beautiful description of how God can raise us up, as on eagle’s wings, when our trust is in Him.