Raising Girls in the Midst of Cultural Collapse

d955.jpg (2)For obvious reasons, I have been thinking a lot about raising little girls these days. I am very much concerned about how to protect young girls from the spirit of the age that exalts the flesh, carnality and sensuality at every turn. I am not just concerned about protecting from the dangers of our culture, but also in the development of a heart and mind that loves the Lord Jesus and desires to seek after godliness in all things. This is not just about external adherence to specific standards in dress and conduct. It must go much deeper than that, right to the issues of the heart that motivate a girl. That, of course, cannot come from parents. It must be a work of the Holy Spirit. 

But parents are powerful influencers of children. What is wisdom today in the area of raising young girls? I have written before on this subject, but believe these issues are terribly important. I have watched other Christian families raise some wonderful daughters, and I very much would like to make wise decisions in the areas that matter the most. Here are a few random thoughts I have on the subject. They are not very organized, but I would love to hear from other mothers (or fathers) of daughters on this. What do you think, based on your experience, are the most important areas parents can influence a daughter to love the Lord and live in godliness? Pardon the somewhat scattered nature of my thoughts here, as I am really just brainstorming on the subject based on my experience and also my beliefs on the matter.

1. Fathers are a huge part of the equation in raising daughters. I never had enough of my Dad because he was involved in broadcast ministry and was gone a large portion of my girlhood. That’s not a criticism, it’s just an observation. His absence left a hole in my life and created a need for male affirmation that affected me deeply as I grew older. I can’t say enough for the power of a father in a girl’s life. I remember once I was on a flight from Cleveland with Dad next to me. I was 16 and looking at a fashion magazine with ads for make-up products. Dad leaned over and told me that my skin was every bit as nice as the model in the photo. I was stunned and pleased more than he will ever know. I had a very low image of myself and his off-hand comment was savored for a long time. That’s why I still remember his comment to this day. Having a father who speaks encouragement not just in areas of physical attraction but in areas of character, most importantly, seems to be a real antidote to girls listening to the culture when it comes to their worth.

2. Mothers are absolutely crucial in setting an example for girls. I have always adored my mother. Mom can’t possibly know how much she meant/means to me. More than anything, Mom is a person who will roll up her sleeves and help others, often to her own cost. All three of her children can’t honor her enough for example of selflessness and love. Mom’s influence is seen in my life every time I am with my own children. While our personalities are very different, what is not different is our love for our families. Mom also showed me that life as a woman was not about fashion and image, but about serving the Lord and using our hands to do useful things. 

3. Girls are not being taught to be useful today. Even Christian girls get lost in the peer jungle of social media, pop culture and boy/girl drama. The world sets the standards and evangelical kids follow them to their own detriment. Hapless parents enroll their children in high schools which often serve as little more than a training ground for worldiness. It is a rare girl who can withstand the seduction of peer influence and not be swept away by it. Few girls today know much about homemaking at all. How many high school girls are prepared to competently help a mother in a situation like mine (bed rest) where meals are needed, basic cleaning needs to be done, shopping and so forth? As for care of babies and little ones, young girls rarely have that chance due to our smaller families today. Babysitting can go a long ways in this area, but hands on care of little ones day in and day out is a rarity in families.

4. Girls appreciate things more when they have less. I admittedly went overboard when our older daughter Mary arrived in our family. After having all boys, I overindulged at times with things like pretty dresses and shoes and so forth. While an objective observer may not have thought so, compared to my childhood, she was blessed indeed at  a young age. I don’t think these things mean as much when they come easily. I had two memorable dolls in my girlhood. Not ten, two. One doll took me up to age 8, the other was my pride and joy until I outgrew dolls altogether. Mom sewed clothes for the dolls, I didn’t get ready made ones from the toy department. Today girls get too much stuff, and I don’t think it is helpful to their characters. 

5. Related to the doll comment, most girls by age 8 are now considered what the advertisers now call “tweens.” This means they are aspiring teenagers. This is a sickening trend that destroys innocence in young girls and thrusts them into a place of early sexual awareness. A simple check of the clothing department for young girls in this age range will demonstrate how innocent girlhood has been replaced with the hard-bitten sexual awareness of our age. Disney has seen to it that little girls as young as three and four are being dragged to “tween” rock star concerts where they’re taught to writhe around sensually to the latest hit number. It’s a desecration of girlhood and a tragedy. 

6. Finding service opportunities for daughters is important in their development. A girl who is never taught how to help and serve others is a sad thing to observe. The youth culture says it’s all about you. The Scriptures tell us that it’s all about others. By requiring girls to help and serve, whether at church, in a nursing home ministry, in a grandparent’s home and so forth is not placing a burden on a girl, it’s giving her an opportunity to develop compassion and a heart for others. Empathy and a view to ease the loads of others is a hallmark of a maturing mindset in a young woman. I want our new daughter to learn to help from an early age. I have seen that little ones of a very young age can help. Mary used to fold laundry for me when she was 4. She got the biggest charge out of folding towels and washcloths for me with her little hands. She liked doing that more than playing. Seizing these moments to teach the joys of doing a job well around the home is important. I told her that every time we fold a pair of socks or something from the family’s laundry, we can think about how much we love that person. Girls need to connect the mundane work of the home with an act of love. I have a tape of Mary when she was about 6 or 7, talking about what she liked to do most. “Mama lets me iron pillow cases,” she said. That’s the kind of mindset I think we ought to strive for. 

How old-fashioned, how primitive, sneer the feminists. Sorry, women. You can burn your bras and run around the business world while outsourcing your motherhood, but true joy is found in serving others, beginning with our own families. Those are the values that make for happy homes, busy and useful girls, and the development of young women whose eyes are on the Lord and not on their bodies. 

I’m interested in your thoughts, mothers, fathers. What do you think is important in raising girls to a God-honoring womanhood? What can we do as mothers to set an example? I know I have left many things out today. I am sitting in my recliner and reflecting on all of this. I pray the Lord will help me do what I can with my girls. Ultimately, heart issues can only be addressed by the girl herself with the Lord’s help. But as parents, we want to make sure we are doing all we can to show Christ in our lives to our young girls with unconditional love and service to our families.

25 thoughts on “Raising Girls in the Midst of Cultural Collapse

  1. Peta Slaney says:

    I missed my grand parents!
    My parent left my country of birth and all the family as well.
    I was 12 and never saw my grandparents again! They are important to growing children of any gender.
    How I would have loved to sit and chat with my mom’s mom.
    You know? Find out stuff my mom did when she was a little/a bit older/ a teenager!
    Yes….I missed knowing my grandparents.

  2. Anna says:

    I enjoyed your thoughts very much. And I agree with them.

    I am a young mom, blessed with a 14 mo. old daughter. I have pondered on how I want to raise her, as well, realizing that it will be very different from the cultural norm. It is old-fashioned – the values, character, and attitude I wish to teach her, but it is so needed today!

    I want to raise a daughter who is beautiful in the eyes of God, is how I would sum it up, I guess.

    God bless you and your sweet little bundle to come! 🙂

  3. Christy says:

    I just want to say that I pray blessings and health on you and your little one. My son was a “stay in bed” baby. We made it to the 36 week point and then I thank God that we didn’t make it further…his cord was around his neck twice. I fear that if he hadn’t been early he would have been too big to survive. God knew when he needed to be here and he knows when your precious daughter needs to be here.

    Having said all of that, I just wanted to say that your thoughts apply not only to daughters but also to sons. The children of today are spoiled, jaded and sensual. It makes me so sad to see. I am a little spoiled myself…we homeschool and I am around some amazing kids. It is always a shock to be around kids that are as worldly as the ones we know aren’t. Mothers should be modest, live with discretion and wisdom, and have a servants heart. I honor my husband (I don’t always get it right but I try) and I love my children and home. And I try hard to model seeking the Lord in everything. I hope that he finds a wife that was a daughter raised to love the Lord. Blessings to you and your family.

  4. Sonya says:

    This is a beautiful and thought provoking article. Very encouraging to those mothers who are battling the world to protect their daughters.
    I agree (with your first commentor) that grandparents & great-grandparents can play a huge roll in the character development of a girl. Any female elders who upholds Biblical ‘behaviour’ (Titus 2:3) WILL impact our daughters when they spend time with them.
    I believe that Titus 2 is part of the roadmap that God has given us in the upbringing of our kids and it’s up to us as parents to follow it. I would recommend to any parent to find a support team for this endeavor. It is a blessing to me to have many God-fearing women who mentor my daughters and a relief that I am not in this battle (for them) alone.
    Thank you God for your ways are perfect & steadfast!

  5. William says:

    I’m a father and I can testify to constantly thinking of how to raise my three girls (12-7-6). I’m still in the process and the primary issues that need to be addressed are spiritual growth and not fellowshiping with the world. I talk to my eldest the most because she was the only child for five years. I confront her sins and remove the excuses through discernment, logic and reason. This helps her because she knows that she can’t approach situations casually because I can discern what’s going on and I always tell her even though I get it right, I’m subject to error, but HE is not. I just try to make her accountable and honest about the true nature of why we do and don’t do things. In regards to not fellowshiping with the world, that’s a mouth full, we’re homeschooling so that helps, although there so many dynamics to that statement. The scripture clearly tells us that a bad tree can not produce good fruit, so we have to be closley guard who we allow to infuence our girls.

    Lastly, fathers spending time with their girls does a lot as Mrs. Schlueter has stated and I know that half of the deepest conversations my eldest and I have had have come more from talking than from our Bible studies.
    Prayer for GOD to guide them and for discernment to help them navigate is of primary importance.

    Good Article

  6. Susan says:

    I have no personal knowledge of raising children but am working on following and understanding God’s Word. It seems pretty simple to me, especially when we remove our “feelings” and just trust in His Word. And I’m often labeled as a pollyanna but I sit in wonder at those who make it so intense, thought provoking and difficult. Why do we spend so much time in our heads thinking?

    Keep God number one in your life, and keep your children in your prayers at all times.

    Regardless of how it “looks” or “seems” to you, God will take care of the rest. You build the knowledge base the kids will have in their hearts. They learn from your character, so just be yourself. You’ve done it right, how many times now? Why would this be different? Give the kids the knowledge of God, show them how to apply it with your life, love them and let God do the rest. He may call to them as small ones, teens or later in life – it’s His choice, not ours.

    In the meantime, enjoy God, enjoy your family, friends and life in general while honoring His name and giving thanks for all things. Phil. 4:4-7

    It just might be that simple. But you knew that.

    (I always enjoy reading your blog and hearing your voice on radio because your love for God is clear in your voice. It’s a blessing. Thank you.)

  7. Ingrid Schlueter says:

    Thanks for your comments. Having not had children, it may be difficult for you to understand the challenges inherent in child rearing. The Word of God may be simple and clear, but parenting children with multiple spiritual/academic/emotional needs is not simple at all. The enemy is always at work attempting to undermine what we do teach our children. That’s why the Christian life is described as a battle. We haven’t always done things right as parents. I look back and wish I had done this differently or perhaps made different decisions on certain matters. My husband and I have considered being parents the most challenging thing we’ve ever faced. It is compounded by a culture that is forever attempting to reach our children with its own allure. I am not attempting to make things seem dark and complicated, but how many nights as a mother have I lain awake praying for one child or another with specific needs? Sometimes we wrestle in prayer for our kids, asking the Lord in His mercy to intervene in their lives as you see the destruction. That’s not a simple, “just do right, trust the Word and that’s it.” God’s ways are plain, but sin in our lives or our children’s lives complicate things, don’t they? More than anything, children humble you because the cut and dried, formula approach to Christian parenting is quickly dismantled by reality. Every child is unique in specific ways. Things that don’t affect one child can completely derail another. That’s where wisdom comes in. That’s where prayer comes in and also deep thought, as I have been engaging in, is wise regarding the godly rearing of our children. I am frail and weak and need God’s wisdom every day in decision making and example setting. With this latest baby, I face even greater challenges in dealing with fibromyalgia pain, fatigue and just being an older mom. But I’m praying and trusting God’s grace will be sufficient for me as it always has been! Thanks again for sharing your thoughts.

  8. JMom says:

    My short list — Live a God honoring life. Pray continuously for your daughter and her future husband. Remind her to only date a boy that she would consider marrying, because she doesn’t know who she will fall in love with. Always refer to “when you have a baby” by prefacing it with “after you get married”. She will learn to empathize, serve others and make herself useful to the Lord as she watches you empathize, serve others and make yourself useful to the Lord. Be active in your church. Limit extracurricular activities and make family a priority. Eat meals together at the table. I am sure you do all these things already!

    Even with all my failures as a parent, my daughters have “turned out” beautifully as told to me frequently by others. As a mom, I couldn’t be more proud of them!

  9. Christina says:

    Very good post Ingrid. I have a 3 yr old daughter and I am 28 weeks with a girl right now. It seems to be a lot harder (in different ways) raising daughters than sons. There are SOOO many things that we are trying to protect our daughter (and son) from.
    One thing that comes to my mind about my daughter right now is showing her what a marriage should look like. It seems like even in today’s churches that this is misconstrued.
    My 3yr old loves to help me cook, bake and clean. She has her own little cleaning kit and it seems her little brother is also catching on also! There is a cute little cook book for little girls called For Good Measure. There are simple instructions as well as pictures to help them learn as they go.

  10. Tiffany says:

    Hi Ingrid,

    I enjoyed your post.

    I don’t have children, and I can only imagine how much concern and prayer must be spent trying to keep your children spiritually well in this world. But I do know one thing from experience: only Christ can keep them away from both sensuality AND the pride that comes from avoiding it because you were raised right.

    I wish I could go back and unwind some of the messes that came from my simply living in and going along with this culture. I was not a rebellious kid. I was just idealistic and naive and not walking with the Spirit. And, at the time, the world’s voice sounded much sweeter than my godly parents’ voices and sadly, much sweeter than God’s voice. I know God brings good out of everything, but years later I am still saddened by my own willful ignorance as a girl and everything that came from it.

    So, pray for wisdom as you raise your girls, but above all, pray that the Spirit would be in them, guiding them. And let’s all pray for churches that confront, rather than tolerate, sin.


  11. nongchang says:

    I was born in 1951, and I see the world nowadays as a very dangerous and cruel place for young girls and women.
    My mother was a very strict Catholic, and felt duty bound to raise my sister and I not as ‘good’ girls, but as children destined for heaven, and not hell.
    Unfortunately, she suffered terribly from mental illness, which then meant that my sister and I ‘mothered’ ourselves, and performed housewifely duties in a very chaotic way, simply because we were too young to take on such burdens.
    My father was a Christian who had been through the ‘hell’ of being a POW to the Japanese in Thailand.
    My father was our ‘Rock’. He was our sense of stability. Without his presence in our family, we would have all been scattered to the winds.
    My mother’s love was always on condition that I be holy, good, smart, pliable … and of course … just to do everything that I was told to do.
    My father’s love was based solely upon my existence as his beloved daughter. His love was total and unconditional. He did everything that he could to set boundaries, to protect me, and yet if I failed, he was happy enough to pick me up again.
    He was, like my sister and I, tormented by my mother’s illness; yet he was extremely loyal to her.
    Feminists argue that in general, the making of a successful woman includes three things:
    1. she is the first born.
    2. she has a good relationship with her father … and …
    3. goes to a single sex (female) school.
    Feminism is not about destroying homes or families. Feminism is about choice.
    So … if I may return to my first argument that the world is a cruel and dangerous place for young women.
    I think that the people (apart from satan himself) who benefit from these times are men, or males. By that I mean, for example that the pornography industry is way, way out of control. The ability to humiliate and destroy the dignity of one girl/woman, then to post it onto the internet — belittles and humiliates ALL women.
    Who is benefitting from women having to financially support their husbands through either full time or part time work? I would argue that it is male dominated companies who see women as a reserve of cheap labour, and who can place these women in competion against men, and other women seeking employment.
    Who is benefitting when we see women who need a little ‘time out’ from their mothering duties, but are then made to feel guilty for not being a ‘good mother’? I think that we might say that society as a whole benefits from scapegoating a mother if things go wrong in a family, simply because she is tired and worn out. The father/husband seems to escape any form of blame for a worn out ‘mum’ … and why is that?
    If we want our daughters to be of service to the world, then they need to have knowledge as to how the Holy Spirit wants the world to be, and how she can be of service to God … and this may mean that her service will be to criticize society, to question values … as well as to serve God through the poor, the needy or her family. In her service for God, she might have to drag her brothers along too, again in acknowledgement that God needs both men and women to serve Him.
    Thank you and blessings to you all,

    I raised two sons. This I did with the help of my father, because my children’s father was an alcoholic. I thank God that my sons are good to their wives. My youngest son now has two daughters, and he is, I hope, following in his grand father’s footsteps. He seems to be very loving and protective of all the ‘girls’ in his life … so, I am really thankful to God for that.

  12. Carol says:

    Ingrid, Your question is indeed a good one and the answer complex. You already shared many good thoughts as you have learned much from raising your children so far. The Bible says to train up a child in the way he/she should go. Part of that training is both parents and grandparents being good examples. Older siblings may help, as well, of course. The disciplines of church attendance, Bible reading and prayer and singing in the home are part of it. Serving others is a part. Experiencing unconditional love and healthy communication and good clean fun in the family is very important. Feeling that every member of the family is valuable and appreciated for their uniqueness is invaluable. The child’s identity of who they are to God their Heavenly Father is so crucial. Psalm 139 should be familiar to them! Creating a comfortable refuge for them to come home to is wonderful. (Starting with a sage green and lavender nursery!) The Word says that He gently leads those who have young – trust Him to show you how to take care of this little new one as you daily ask Him! And it’s just one day at a time – don’t think of all of the 21 years to go all at once! Only God knows what tomorrow will bring. And take care of yourself! Did you ever hear of mycoplasma being the cause of some people’s fibromyaglia? It might be worthwhile to get a blood test to see if that is the cause of yours, and many people who have been tested positive and treated with 3ppm collodial silver on a daily basis for a few weeks have felt much better. God Bless you as you seek His wisdom. The Word says to just ask and He will be happy to give! Love, Carol

  13. Mrs. Collins says:

    Oh Ingrid, your post couldn’t be more timely.

    My heart aches, young girls today, even in homeschool circles they are being drawn away, and are developing as nothing more than trinkets. So pretty on the outside, but shallow and empty on the inside.

    We are allowing our young Christians to fall into the pit of “self-idolization”. There’s not much dying to self going on. Too many young, Christian girls are wasting precious time, these years that could be spent preparing themselves for their future lives, are wasted. Character is being thrown by the way-side, and in place, our young ladies are being awarded for being obsessed with their outward appearance. Little by little, the standards of dress are changing, and more immodest clothing is being allowed than ever before.

    I learned recently, that a young man in our particular homeschool group, decided not to attend our group’s, Spring formal, due to the fact that there are too many immodest dresses being worn to the event. How can we keep our young men from being tempted to lust, if we allow our daughters to participate in the sin by dressing in ways that would tempt young men to do so?

    It is a constant battle, to fight off worldliness. And for me as a mother, I have to be so careful. I pray that my daughters do not fall prey to the same mindset.

    Sometimes, the enemy, tries to make me think my girls are missing out, because they aren’t invited to certain events, they aren’t a part of the “in” crowd. But my Lord reminds me, they are in good company, He was never a part of the “in” crowd.

    I pray I do not fail them. I pray that I stay strong and teach them what our Lord desires for them as His young maidens. So far, their hearts have been captured by our amazing Savior. He has given them a hunger for His word, and His ways. They are not obsessed with trying to make people gush over them, they are content with the attention and love they receive from their loving, earthly father, and the love their Heavenly Father pours into their hearts.

    What good are Christian organizations, if they end up producing worldly individuals just like worldly organizations do? It is a sad day indeed. We need to keep our standards high, in order to teach our children not to love this world. We are to be a peculiar people, we are to be separated. How can we be called separated when we look and act just like the lost, who do not know what it means to no longer be servants of sin?

    We need to pray for one another, for all Christian parents, that we will wake up, and quit trying to be “cool”, that we will be parents who lead by example, whose lives are guided by God’s word and not worldly, fleshly desires.

  14. Margaret L. Been says:

    Ingrid, I think you’ve hit all the most important points! Your little girl will be blessed!

    How right you are about children needing to have jobs and feel useful. And about appreciating toys when they don’t have so many!

  15. Jennifer Peacock says:

    Be a God-honoring woman yourself, Ingrid. Being the mother of two daughters (ages 10 and 7) has made me more painfully aware of my own spiritual, physical, emotional, and intellectual shortcomings. The well-worn cliche, “It’s caught, not taught,” means a lot more now that I see annoying habits and sinful attitudes developing in my daughters that they didn’t learn from television or friends, but from dear ol’ Mom. I home educate the girls besides, so that leaves with me few opportunities to blameshift 😉

  16. Deanna says:

    I really enjoyed hearing your thoughts and observations on this very important subject.

    I am a mother of 4 daughters – ages 17, 15, 10 and almost 7.

    I have found that a key thing is to have MY heart right before the Lord! When I am focused on serving and pleasing the Lord then it is easier to communicate that to my girls. Another thing is to keep them with you – meaning if I am running errands or if we are folding clothes or washing dishes or even reading, they stay close by and help and we talk – a lot! Conversation about this subject is very helpful. Being open to answer questions and to discuss hard things like “why do our friends who are Christians get to do (insert whatever subject).”

    My girls have allowed the Lord to guide them and are trusting Him for their futures. The Holy Spirit leads them to want to serve and honor God and their dad and I.

    We are not perfect by any means but the Lord has blessed us with sweet, modest, God honoring daughters!

  17. Carol says:

    Charlotte, Indeed very disturbing, and people need to be aware, but Ingrid needs to have a break from stress and anxiety right now! God Bless and Help and Protect us all!

  18. julie says:

    Ingrid, great thoughts. Just a couple that I would add. Teach your child that her own heart is evil and she needs the Lord’s forgiveness and salvation. Do not allow her to grow up thinking that she is somehow morally superior to others who do not have godly parents and are not kept from acting out their sinful nature. I find that Christian parents, especially homeschoolers, who dearly want to protect their children from evil influences “out there”, can neglect to tell them about the sin that lurks in all of our hearts — not just out there someplace — but even right here in our Christian homes. An attitude of humility and meekness, a willingness to call sin, sin and to point your child continually to the Lord and the gospel is the remedy. As they get older add a willingness to confess when you have wronged them and ask their forgiveness, reminding them once again that you need the Lord’s forgiveness as well.

    This is particularly for Christian moms: kids follow our example. We want our daughters to have a good relationship with her Dad. This is what we want to model. We want her to listen to her Dad. Do we listen? Or do we argue with him? Do we have a meek spirit with our husbands? Do we submit joyfully to him and work alongside him, supporting him and loving him? Does he find it a joy to come home? These things are picked up by children, and will reflect their parents attitudes towards one another.

  19. christianlady says:

    As the mother of four daughters so far (10 and under), I find your comments to be spot on and quite helpful. One area I believe it is important to train our daughters is in trusting God with things the world thinks we should control. I believe we should trust God with the amount of children we have, and with provision for those children. Also, I believe we should display at all times a value for life. So often, in our culture, motherhood is put down, seductively because we want to limit our family size. I want to teach my girls to realize that they can know they are doing God’s will when they are pregnant with a baby in their marriages. I also want them to understand that fertility is up to God and so they should not feel down on themselves if they cannot conceive and have no children or adopt…or if they very easily conceive and have many children.

    I believe in teaching my children the value of people in their lives. We are to invest in things that are eternal, and the only things around us that are eternal are the people in our lives. This means that our elderly grandparents are more important than a concert, and time with these people is more valuable than our desires for a fun time elsewhere. Family and friends are important to God, and so should be to us. Also, we can learn many things from members of our family. It’s wise to value those who are older than us because they have mistakes to teach us to avoid, they have skills to teach us how to do. I hope my daughters will be unafraid to seek out instruction from their family, friends, and people in the church.

    Modesty is key. Modesty in dress, and also modesty in gifts. You shouldn’t flaunt anything God has given you whether it’s your dress or talents, or in your doing good. Just dress, act, and serve to glorify God.

    I hope to teach my daughters how to listen and value others by my own actions. We can hope that our daughters will be better than us at many things, but our example is a big influence.

  20. Nancy in NY says:

    I appreciate your writing these thoughts Ingrid. Amen.

    The reply post by Julie on June 12 is a good challenge to my heart. I needed the admonition regarding my relationship with Dad and how that affects our children.

    May we, by God’s grace, live according to His Word.

  21. Jessica says:

    Thank you Ingrid for these wonderful thoughts. I have been thinking a lot about these things. My daughter is two and I so desperately want to shield her from worldliness and encourage godly character and a love for the Lord.

    This is such a strong reminder that I need to be a role model for her. It is very convicting and humbling when I look at my own life.

    One thing we have been thinking about is how easy it is to spoil our kids. We buy them new toys and they are bored within minutes. They have so much stuff and yet they can’t seem to find ways to occupy themselves. I decided a few days ago that that we are only going to get them new toys or games or books on their birthdays or at Christmas, and they will not be extravagant gifts. I don’t like the whiny, greedy unappreciative spirit I see developing in them.

    At the same time, I realize that if I deny them, I must also deny myself and learn to appreciate what I have instead of always wanting new things.

    I pray the Lord helps us. We have been financially blessed so it is doubly a challenge. We are by no means rich but our income allows us to give liberally, save liberally and spend liberally. But just because we have the means, that absolutely does not make frivolous spending right in God’s site. I pray the Lord will continue to convict me here and bring it to my attention while I seek to make these changes.

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