**This post was originally published in March of 2013. Since that time it has become clear that additional lies and fake (very creative) narratives have been told by my father about our departure from VCY America. They would be funny if they were not so slanderous. I received a phone call over a year ago from a pastor down south, someone I had known and helped for years to get on the air and promote his ministry to the inner city. I had not seen him in several years. The pastor told me he was calling because he was concerned about me. He had been told by my father, Vic Eliason that I had “lost my mind.” I had known what Vic had told the tiny board at VCY America to justify Tom and my departure, which was legally actionable slander, but the fact that he was further spreading these lies was breathtaking.
I assured Pastor Jones that my mind was, indeed, still intact, :-), and that Vic had been on a smear campaign to justify his sin against our family that forced us to have to leave our jobs of a combined 43 years, and for me, a lifetime at VCY. Since that time, it has come back to me from several, who doubted what Vic was saying, making it evident that these lies are far flung.
Sitting on my desk, I still have the evidence of my father’s hate mail that he sent me at my home under the fake woman’s name, “Barbara.” This hate mail contained a cover-letter from “Barbara” promising to spread the contents of the envelope to “her” church. The contents were printed off a hate site (now abandoned) in a blog post about me that referenced oral sex including a description of the male sex organ, and featured a fake account of my departure from VCY that was completely made up. What kind of a “Christian” father mails this kind of filth to his own daughter, a wife and mother? What kind of non-Christian father does that? (Vic justified this psychotic behavior to his wife and son by saying he only wanted me to know what was being said about me online. LOL! Using a fake name “Barbara” and promising to spread the lying account around “her” church?)
Dr. Randall Melchert, chairman of the board of VCY, is fully aware of what Vic was doing, as I personally informed him in the presence of two witnesses in a phone call. Vic was caught at this when he chose to post under the same woman’s name on the blog of a friend of mine named Yvonne. In that comment posted on Yvonne’s blog, “Barbara Clark” (my father, Vic Eliason), further smeared my name, but he made the fatal mistake of posting it from his home, his IP address giving him away. My sons proved it was his IP address by standing in their grandfather’s yard one night and logging onto their grandfather’s Wi-Fi and collecting the screen shot. The evidence is unassailable. Vic, of course, denies all.
I have on my desk further evidence of Vic’s bizarre and troubling behavior, including his mailing of a red toy car to my son, Charlie, using a VCY America envelope. This was after Charlie’s red car had died and he needed a vehicle. (Here’s your new car, Charlie.) Charlie had revealed to us what Vic had been engaged in while Charlie had been hired at VCY America. Our son was used to try to further damage our reputations. Vic tried to destroy our relationship with him at a difficult time in Charlie’s life. By God’s grace, that relationship is fully restored and Charlie sees exactly what was done to him by his grandfather. What kind of a grandfather, atheist or Christian, deliberately tries to use his own vulnerable grandson to help destroy his mother (me)? A very sick person does that. A person who is a walking lie does that.
Vic Eliason’s family lies in ruins. All attempts to reach out have been rejected. It’s a tragedy that was wholly avoidable had humility and love won out over pride and malice. The darkness in Vic Eliason is masked by his outraged Crosstalk programs on Islam and Barack Obama and every other conservative cause du jour. Few would believe the personal reality behind the image. We have lived it and continue to live it. I am no longer interested in protecting this corruption—corruption that was wholly ignored by Dr. Randy Melchert and the rest of the board. The rest of the board has listened to one account only of the Eliason family tragedy: Vic’s account. They have believed his lies and concocted “evidence” without the slightest interest in hearing from two faithful employees of over two decades, Vic’s own family members. Even a secular judge is required to hear both sides before passing judgement. The board of directors think they are above that apparently. I have news for them. They are not.
I have a plaque sitting on my desk, given by the “Board of Directors” of VCY America. It congratulates me for “20 years of continuous faithful service.” It is dated June 9, 1986 – June 9, 2006. Tom has another such plaque for his service to VCY America, a ministry we financially supported every single month all the years that we worked there. We served an additional five years beyond those on the plaque.These same faithful employees were allowed to resign and limp off into the night without the slightest attempt to resolve the tragic issues underlying our departure. The years preceding 1986 for me were spent growing up in the very building on Kilbourn where the board meets every month. Those years aren’t noted on the plaque, but they made up the fabric of my life. Were we not owed the respect of a hearing by those who voted against one board member’s suggestion of help for us? Answer: Yes, we were.
We urge Vic to repent of his sin against our family while he still has time, and we urge the board of directors at VCY America to repent of ignoring the harm done to our family, and to make it right. This issue is far from closed. None of this sin has been addressed. The lies continue to be told to cover for Vic. This is wrong, and the lies continue to come back to me through those who love us and who, thankfully, didn’t believe them. God has not forgotten any of this. He sees injustice and he sees the lies, and like all the other rot He is exposing, this also will be revealed fully in His time. Those who believed the lies or who enabled them by their cowardly silence are equally accountable before God. End of update.**
Original post from 3/13
I have given this post a very specific title for purposes of searches online. My name has been smeared beyond repair on the Internet, but I am posting this after having hundreds of searches in the last 2 years appear on my blog dashboard regarding my sudden disappearance from Crosstalk and departure from VCY America in 2011.
A malicious and dishonest extended family member deliberately floated the rumor (several lying rumors actually) that I am now divorced and that suggested search term appears when my name is put into google.
For the record, I will have been married 18 years in June to Tom, the greatest gift from God I could have received. He is the love of my life. It is an outright lie.
For the record, Tom and I left VCY America in May of 2011 after my prayerful attempt to honestly address some long standing, extended (Eliason) family and employee concerns was met with open hostility by Vic on March 5, 2011. Unable to function with integrity in our jobs in the ensuing fallout, we had to walk away from our livelihoods – jobs we had done for a combined 43 years, and for me, a lifetime at VCY America. Despite repeated attempts to get help from the board, we were treated as less than human and discarded.
There is an obscene, fictional account online of my departure on a hate blog that has linked here to my own blog so I see the incoming hits from those doing searches. We have strong reason to believe that the sick individual writing the lies online was encouraged by the same hostile family member whose well concealed malice has done a great deal of harm.
I worked hard for 2 decades to bring essential information to Christians at a time of enormous changes within evangelicalism. Despite a near constant stream of incoming personal attacks that result when you address these spiritually rooted issues, the 23 years of work that I did speaks for itself, and I feel no need to defend the quality or motivation involved.
A short time ago, I removed the posts here at the Hope Blog that detailed the harm done to us in the past 2 years by VCY America. They were pulled, not because anything had changed, and not because any of it is OK. It’s not OK. But we are making every effort to accept the losses and move on, and removing the record of wrongs was a step I took for me. God has the only record book that matters.
So if you something bizarre online, or notice google bombs (dishonest false search terms repeatedly put into google for purposes of slander) with my name attached, please just contact me if it worries you. I’m always here to answer questions if someone feels they need to know the facts about something. It’s interesting that despite the many times I have seen my name with ugly search terms next to it on my WordPress dashboard, I have yet to hear personally from more than a handful. I would think that when reputations are at stake, going to the source would be the Christian thing to do.